Hello good people. :)
Hope you have all been well. Remember the 1994 movie “The Mask” starring Jim Carey where the bank clerk Stanley Ipkiss is transformed into a manic super-hero when he wears a mysterious mask and without it he was normal? Well I do, in case you didn’t watch it or weren’t born then you can Google and see what the movie was about. That’s what is happening to most of us. We are putting on masks to cover so much which makes us feel superficial for a short time then when we remove the masks we are back to normal.
Hope you have all been well. Remember the 1994 movie “The Mask” starring Jim Carey where the bank clerk Stanley Ipkiss is transformed into a manic super-hero when he wears a mysterious mask and without it he was normal? Well I do, in case you didn’t watch it or weren’t born then you can Google and see what the movie was about. That’s what is happening to most of us. We are putting on masks to cover so much which makes us feel superficial for a short time then when we remove the masks we are back to normal.
Today, I would like to address some social issues as youth (me
included) and parents to teenagers are going through. (I promised I would write
about parenting in my first post J)
Well, I want to illustrate using two stories what you probably don’t know or
know but ignore or it may just be happening around you. So here we go;
Illustration 1
The other day I was talking to my two friends who are
teachers and they were explaining to me how bad the situation has become in
schools especially where kids from well up families go to. It was very sad to
learn that teenagers of about 14-18 years can tell a teacher words that I can’t
even write here on their face without shame. I remember in my days you wouldn’t
even look at the teacher sometimes when they were reprimanding you. Some of these
kids are also engaging in adulterous activities and while their parents are
aware they do nothing about it. The same parents also finance their children to
partake in alcoholism and some grown up social functions where drinking is
involved and this has even become a common excuse for missing school. It is
quite a sad state of affairs.
Illustration 2
I meet this girl at a social function and she is amazing I
will call her Suzan for now. Suzan is beautiful, smart, and funny. Suzan is in
her early 30’s.She is struggling with alcohol and being ratchet because anytime
she has a problem she runs to get a bottle and the eventually in the process
engages in extracurricular activities with several men. This amazing girl is
having a problem dealing with her problems and how she deals with it is making
the situation worse. As we speak, this awesome soul has drunk so much of her
cash and has nothing to show for what she has worked for. She is also
constantly going to get checked if she has contracted HIV or other horrible
infections.
My two cents on this whole issue is please PARENTS make time for your children get
involved find out what is going on in your kids lives also, you need to ask
yourself what kind of an example you are for your kids. Would you be proud of
them being an exact replica of your character? Think about it. Money cannot replace time for them. It’s actually the
substitute that is causing all these problems and eventually it is going to
bite you. One teacher was telling me how one of her students was complaining
that she is not given enough money for shopping. Enough here means 25,000 in my
days 2,000 was to cater for a whole term inclusive of shopping and pocket
money. Again, I don’t know about you guys but the cane has been forgotten and
this thing for “stand in the corner and think about what you have done” could
be contributing to this disgusting lot of kids. The saying “spare the rod spoil
the child.” This is exactly what is happening. Also, parents please stop
burdening teachers with your responsibilities they are now the ones dealing
with the crap (for lack of a better word) that you aren’t dealing with. For the
parents that are actually doing something about these issues well done and keep
it up.
Suzan my friend on the other hand has major issues and
doesn’t know how to deal with them. Which is a very common problem among our
youth now. People are dealing with issues in all the wrong things. How about
getting a hobby, exercising, reaching out and talking to someone, church (yea I
know but trust it helps) praying, talking to friends an older person or someone
that just cares about your well being? Eventually this way of ”dealing” is exactly why many of the youth are
getting depressed, suicidal etc. Let’s look out for each other and stop masquerading real issues. (I hope this post has helped someone)
Disclaimer: This has
been the hardest post I have ever had to write but someone has got to say
something right? Also, I hope that it helps someone somewhere.
Thanks for stopping by :)
Blessings,
Miss Wainaina.
xoxo
